I was feeling very low the other day when I logged on to Facebook. When I went to my home page I found it full of foul language, sexual innuendos and derogatory comments about others. Had I been hacked? No, this was 'normal' chat between some of me 'friends' and some of their own friends who I don't know. I don't like it. I don't want to face this sort of thing when I log in.
After much thought I decided to remove these people from my list of Facebook friends. Does this mean we are no longer friends? I don't as yet know since I am not at work and have not seen any of them in real life yet. Have I emailed them to talk about it? Again no, for 2 reasons.
1/ Have they even noticed? Looking back, only 1 of these 'friends' has actually written on my wall, messaged me of involved me in any way in the last 6 months.
2/ If they have noticed and take exception to it I am enough of a coward to want to leave it until I have to face it rather than invite a barrage of comment when I am trying to relax.
I suffered a nervous breakdown 2 years ago, aggrevated by Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after an incident at work I never emotionally resolved properly. Since that time I have opened up more and made more friends. Strangely, most of my new very good friends are people I have only met in this strange virtual world we now have, yet I find I am closer to them than to many of the people I share my real life with, most of whom didn't even notice I was ill and some of whom still think I made it all up. A few people even stopped being my friend at that time because I was 'crazy' and worse, i didn't try to hide it or pretend it has never happened. I mention it in public! I still suffer from depression and anxiety and will talk about mental health issues in meetings at work! Shock, horror! I might run amok with a knife or a shotgun next you know!
So, what makes a friend? Shared experiences or similar reactions to similar experiences. Working together or talking together. Sharing lifes troubles or lending an ear to them?